While being busy with work, what you can do now to achieve "serious love"

Table of Contents:

1. Why can't we meet after becoming working adults? Three fundamental reasons
2. Five places where busy working adults can meet new people
   • ① Workplace and work-related
   • ② Introductions from friends and acquaintances
   • ③ Communities for hobbies and classes
   • ④ Events (matchmaking parties, hobby gatherings)
   • ⑤ Matching apps
3. Three key points to lead to successful encounters
4. How to choose the best matching apps for busy working adults
5. Conclusion: From "waiting for chance" to "actively choosing" love

1. Why can't we meet after becoming working adults? Three fundamental reasons

“Since becoming a working adult, there have been hardly any encounters…” Once you get used to work and want to enrich your private life, many people face this barrier. During student days, there were so many natural opportunities for love, so why is that? Let's start by correctly understanding the causes.

1. Fixation of the lifestyle cycle

For many working adults, weekdays are spent commuting between work and home. On weekends, they handle accumulated housework or recover from work fatigue. Living in a fixed cycle where there is no room for new relationships is the biggest reason for the lack of encounters.

2. Limitations of time and energy

As you take on responsible work and build your career, the time and mental energy you can devote to dating and marriage activities become limited. Feeling that “searching for encounters is a hassle” is not because you are insincere; it is proof that you are seriously engaged in your daily tasks.

3. Changes in values regarding love

Unlike during student days, love for working adults adds a more realistic perspective such as future life plans and marriage. It's not just “anyone will do,” which leads to a cautious selection of partners and naturally raises the hurdle to take a step forward.

2. Five places where busy working adults can meet new people

So, where specifically should we take action? Here are five "places for encounters" suitable for modern working adults, organized with their merits and demerits.

① Workplace and work-related

The most familiar place for encounters. You can deeply understand a person's character through their approach to work, which is the biggest advantage. However, if the relationship becomes complicated, it poses a risk of interfering with work, making it a difficult option for those who dislike mixing personal and professional lives.

② Introductions from friends and acquaintances

Introductions from trustworthy friends provide a very high sense of security. However, relying on friends' networks limits opportunities, and if it doesn't work out, it could create an awkward situation with your friend, which is a disadvantage.

③ Communities for hobbies and classes

Cooking classes, gyms, and working adult circles are natural ways to connect through shared interests. Having common topics makes conversations easy and allows you to see the true expressions of others. However, not all participants may have dating as their goal, which can reduce efficiency for dating.

④ Events (matchmaking parties, hobby gatherings)

“Hobby gatherings for working adults” and matchmaking parties are places that maximize the efficiency of encounters. Everyone participating is seeking to meet someone, so conversations progress quickly. On the other hand, because you talk to many people in a short time, there's a tendency for relationships to remain superficial.

⑤ Matching apps

Matching apps, which allow you to operate at your own pace regardless of time or place, are probably the most realistic option for busy working adults. You can search for partners among a vast number of members, but how to discern “safety” and “seriousness of the other person” is key to success.

3. Three key points to lead to successful encounters

Regardless of which place for encounters you choose, there are common ways of thinking among successful people.

• Clarify your purpose: Are you looking for a partner you can casually go out to eat with (dating), or a partner to share your future with (marriage activities)? By clarifying your purpose, the places and approaches you should choose will naturally become clear.
• Consider time as an "investment": Because you are busy, time is a finite resource. Incorporating time for encounters into your schedule and consciously securing it as an “investment in the future” is essential.
• Prioritize "quality" over "quantity": Meeting many people is not the goal. Even if it’s just one person, meeting a partner you can truly trust. This shift in awareness from “quantity to quality” will lead your marriage activities and dating to success.

4. How to choose the best matching apps for busy working adults

For working adults who prioritize "quality over quantity," choosing which matching app to use is an extremely important strategy. Please judge based on the following three criteria.

• Criterion 1: Thorough "safety" Verification of identity through official documents is a minimum requirement. An environment where you can express yourself safely forms the foundation for sincere encounters.
• Criterion 2: Proven "seriousness" Using overly casual free apps increases the risk of wasting time on users whose purposes are unclear. Platforms that have a certain fee structure and a strict screening system naturally filter the seriousness of participants.
• Criterion 3: Essential "matching of values" Isn't it time to stop searching for partners based solely on specifications like income and looks? What is truly important is the alignment of inner values such as financial sense, attitudes toward work, and how to spend holidays.

Yoitoki's unique AI "Kokoro Musubi" scientifically realizes this “matching of values.” It deeply analyzes your personality and lifestyle, recommending only those with a high potential for genuine resonance. This can fundamentally eliminate the time and emotional waste that working adults most want to avoid, such as “I met them, but we didn’t match at all…”

5. Conclusion: From "waiting for chance" to "actively choosing" love

Encounters for working adults are not something that come naturally like in student days. However, this is not something to be pessimistic about; it is proof that you have reached a mature stage where you can “choose a partner that suits you by your own will.”

Let's stop lamenting that “there are no encounters” and instead use your precious time for “choices” to build the best future.

Let's start a new encounter at Yoitoki

Are you wasting time on low-quality encounters while being busy with work every day? Yoitoki respects your precious time to the fullest. The dating and marriage activities with partners who match your values, selected by AI, are far smarter and more sincere than you can imagine.