Table of Contents
- When I first heard about “sugar dating”
- What is a Sugar daddy – sugar baby?
- Common misunderstandings about sugar dating
- Sugar dating in Japan: when lonely people meet
- Yoitoki – An app connecting Vietnamese sugar daddies and young Japanese women
- Conclusion: Is a mature relationship wrong?
1. When I first heard about “sugar dating”
When I first arrived in Japan, there was a time while having drinks with an older friend from the Vietnamese community in Tokyo, he asked me:
“Do you know what sugar dating is?”
I shook my head. He laughed, took a sip of beer and said:
“It’s like... when you’re grown up, you have relationships that don't need passionate romance. As long as you understand and support each other, that's enough.”
At that time, I just smiled awkwardly, finding it strange. But later, I understood — living abroad, sometimes what people need isn’t a lightning-strike love, but someone mature to connect and accompany.
2. What is a Sugar daddy – sugar baby?
● What does sugar daddy mean?
Simply put, a sugar daddy is a mature man with financial means, willing to provide financial support to a younger woman (called a sugar baby) in the context of a clear relationship.
And what about sugar dating? It's a form of dating where both sides agree — it’s not fairy-tale love, nor is it “buying and selling.” It’s just a connection based on needs and mutual respect.
● Sugar daddy meaning as slang?
This term is sometimes misunderstood as slang for a “wealthy patron.” But in reality, in many cases, it’s a mature choice for those who no longer want to get involved in vague relationships.
3. Common misunderstandings about sugar dating
When people hear about sugar daddy – sugar baby, many immediately think of “buying and selling” or “taking advantage.” But actually, I’ve met many friends in such relationships who respect each other greatly.
A Japanese female friend of mine once shared:
“I don’t need a young boyfriend who’s jealous all the time. I need a mature man who can share, and help me emotionally and financially.”
Sugar dating — if there’s consensus and transparency — creates a very… grown-up kind of connection.
4. Sugar dating in Japan: when lonely people meet
In Japan, especially in big cities like Tokyo or Osaka, many middle-aged Vietnamese men live alone, busy with work, but lacking someone to share with.
On the other hand, young Japanese women are becoming more independent, many aren't interested in traditional marriage, but still want to find a strong, kind man to accompany them.
They don’t need marriage, nor binding commitments. They need “conditional friendship,” where both sides are heard and support each other.
5. Yoitoki – An app connecting Vietnamese sugar daddies and young Japanese women

Later, I happened to discover Yoitoki – a dating app specifically for middle-aged Vietnamese (and Korean) men, connecting with modern, young Japanese women.
What’s special about Yoitoki:
- No scams, no anonymity – all users are strictly verified.
- High match success rate thanks to intelligent suggestion mechanisms.
- The relationships are not only about love – but about understanding.
I once thought that these kinds of apps were only for “kids,” but turns out they’re not. On Yoitoki, I saw people like me – those needing a peaceful, pressure-free connection.
6. Conclusion: Is a mature relationship wrong?
In a world with too many choices and fakeness, sometimes the most precious thing is an honest, clear, and grown-up relationship.
If you’re a Vietnamese man living and working in Japan, have ever felt lonely after work, or just want someone to talk to and care for...
Who knows, Yoitoki could be the start of a genuine relationship for you.


