The unavoidable first step in "Papa Katsu" is the "face-to-face meeting". We will introduce a beginner-friendly face-to-face guide along with examples from active 40s Dads and current PJs, covering the payment range, how to proceed, and conversation tips.

 Table of Contents

What is a face-to-face meeting in Papa Katsu?

Transportation costs and payment range for face-to-face meetings

The flow of a Papa Katsu face-to-face meeting

Four things to achieve during a face-to-face meeting

Recommended conversation topics for face-to-face meetings

Recommended places for face-to-face meetings

Things to be careful about during a face-to-face meeting

Summary: A face-to-face meeting is not a “negotiation” but a “judgment”

1. What is a face-to-face meeting in Papa Katsu?

In Papa Katsu, a "face-to-face meeting" is the first step.
It’s a time to check each other's atmosphere and intentions during the first meeting, and to align each other's stance and conditions.

Questions that might be difficult to ask in advance, like "Is just dinner okay?" or "Are you hoping for something more?", can be naturally communicated when you actually meet and talk.

Using an app like Yoitoki with detailed profile settings can reduce mismatches from the start, making the face-to-face meeting go smoothly.

2. What are the transportation costs and payment range for face-to-face meetings?

In face-to-face meetings, it is basically considered good manners for the male side to cover "transportation costs" and "tea expenses".

💰Estimated payment range for Papa Katsu face-to-face meetings:

Asking for a high amount from the start is often viewed with suspicion, so it is realistic to cover transportation costs plus a little extra during the face-to-face meeting.

3. The flow of a Papa Katsu face-to-face meeting

① Negotiating the face-to-face meeting

Try suggesting "How about a light tea first?" using the chat function in Yoitoki. Always keep a “light” atmosphere in mind.

② Deciding the date and place

Daytime or evening, a place close to the station is ideal. Hotel lounges and quiet cafes are popular.

③ Reminder contact

Just sending a message like "Looking forward to tomorrow" the day before or in the morning can leave a good impression.

④ Meeting and first impressions

“Cleanliness is everything.” Your clothing, makeup, and posture will influence the atmosphere at first meeting.

⑤ Conversation over tea or meals

Don’t rush into topics about Papa Katsu; start with discussions about hobbies or work gradually. If silence feels awkward, admitting "This is my first face-to-face meeting..." can help ease the tension.

⑥ Dissolution and thank-you message

After the face-to-face meeting, send a thank-you message saying, "Thank you for today" via LINE or within Yoitoki.

4. Four things to achieve during a face-to-face meeting

Make them feel that "we seem to get along"

Confirm the frequency and outline of dates

Lightly align the direction of the payment

Reassure them that you are not a "dangerous person"

A face-to-face meeting is not a place for “negotiating money” but rather a place to judge whether a trustworthy relationship can be formed.

5. Recommended conversation topics for face-to-face meetings

Each other's hobbies, work, and recent interests

"What made you want to do Papa Katsu?" (Softly, to make it easy to answer)

"What does your ideal relationship look like?" (Allows for a natural conditions check)

Topics about fashion and movies (Commonalities are easier to find)

6. Recommended places for face-to-face meetings

Hotel lounges (Quiet with some visibility)

Underground cafes (Fewer people, easier to talk)

Semi-private restaurants (For evening face-to-face meetings)

Avoid places that are "too obvious" like karaoke or love hotel districts. Setting it for daytime or evening is better.

7. Things to be careful about during a face-to-face meeting

・Don’t break the honorifics too much, but “always using honorifics” is too stiff

・Communicate your "hopes" and "boundaries" within what you can uphold

・Express as "requests" rather than "demands"

・Focus on valuing "one trustworthy person" rather than casting a wide net

8. Summary: A face-to-face meeting is also a "selection process"

Please don’t try to force yourself to be liked during the face-to-face meeting.
The important question is whether "this person can be trusted to continue with". You need to judge this yourself.

The success of Papa Katsu is determined 80% by the initial "face-to-face meeting".
That’s why it’s crucial to prioritize the “atmosphere” over money.
If the chemistry is right, discussions about payments and relationships will naturally follow.