Introduction

"I don't know if I like this person..." — Have you ever thought that?
After becoming a working adult, it becomes easier to feel "confused" about love and relationships. With various barriers like "different values than when I was younger," "busy daily life," and "fewer opportunities to meet people," there remains ambiguity in the feelings of whether or not one likes someone.
For adult women who carry such uncertain feelings, a place to safely search for connections is necessary. This time, focusing on the keyword "not sure if I like them," we will provide hints on how to enjoy meetings in a way that is "safe," "true to oneself," and "a little adventurous." Of course, Yoitoki is also introduced as one option for meeting someone.

Table of Contents

1. What moments make you feel "not sure if I like them"?
2. Three perspectives to enjoy meetings while holding onto ambiguity
   1. ① Confronting your own feelings
   2. ② Choosing a safe and trustworthy meeting place
   3. ③ Considering encounters with different cultures and foreigners
3. Yoitoki — The process of meeting that starts from "not sure if I like them"
4. Common anxieties and how to face them
5. Summary: Because you are not sure if you like them, act in a way that is true to yourself

1. What moments make you feel "not sure if I like them"?

When you start to like someone, that feeling doesn't always become clear right away as "I like them!" In fact, in many cases, there is an ambiguous phase.

"It's fun to be with them, but I don't feel much excitement."

"I get along with this person, but I'm unsure if I want to be together all the time."

"I'm attracted to them, but I can't explain why."

Such feelings tend to increase, especially after becoming a working adult. Daily life becomes busy, and with less time and emotional space, one begins to prioritize "connections" and "meetings" over "romance."
This means starting a meeting without knowing if you like them is not necessarily negative. Rather, it can be seen in the following ways.

"Meetings that start from 'safety and trust'

Meetings that slowly cultivate a relationship that can last

Meetings that seek people who align with your values and lifestyle

Thinking this way, the stage of "not sure if I like them" can actually become the starting line for a meeting.

2. Three perspectives to enjoy meetings while holding onto ambiguity

① Confronting your own feelings

The first important thing is to focus on the balance between your own feelings, style, and life.
Because you are in a "not sure if I like them" state, consider asking yourself the following questions.

Do I feel safe talking to this person?

Is the time spent with this person "my kind of time"?

Does meeting this person expand my world a little?

By carefully layering these questions, you can get closer to a clear feeling of "I want to spend time with this person" from "I'm just somewhat attracted."
And when searching for connections, even in the ambiguous stage of "not sure if I like them," taking your time and proceeding at your own pace can ultimately lead to good meetings.

② Choosing a safe and trustworthy meeting place

Safety and trust are very important in meetings. Especially when starting from "not sure if I like them," it is important to start without carrying strange anxieties or risks.
For example, using services that have proper identity verification, 24-hour support, and privacy considerations can create emotional ease.
Yoitoki is a platform recommended for beginners in meeting, as it considers "culture, safety, and convenience." Because it is designed to participate with peace of mind, it becomes easier to take a step forward even in the stage of "not sure if I like them."

③ Considering encounters with different cultures and foreigners

The "not sure if I like them" state also hides opportunities to broaden your horizons for encounters. In particular, by considering encounters with different cultures and foreigners, your own values and world can expand naturally.
Yoitoki is designed to connect Japanese women and foreign men, and offers support to turn language and cultural barriers into something to enjoy.
As an adult woman with work, hobbies, and life experience, you have the strength to meet cross-cultural partners with confidence. Especially in the "not sure if I like them" stage, it can be good to explore "comfort" and "shared values" together.

3. The process of meeting that starts from "not sure if I like them" using Yoitoki

In this chapter, we will introduce the process of enjoying meetings while cherishing ambiguous feelings by actually using Yoitoki.

Step 1: Registration and profile creation

First, register with Yoitoki. To safely enjoy meetings as a working adult, let's proceed carefully with identity verification and profile creation.
In your profile, it’s okay to write naturally about your interests such as "I like talking" or "I enjoy traveling and cultural exchanges," even if it's vague; it creates a "easy to talk to" impression for others.
Subtly conveying the feeling of "I’m not sure if I like them, but I want to safely search for connections" in writing is also a good approach.

Step 2: Message exchange

Once matched with someone you’re interested in, start by slowly nurturing the relationship through messages.
Because you are in a "not sure if I like them" state, there is no need to force any excitement. Rather, these casual exchanges help foster trust and safety.
Yoitoki anticipates exchanges with foreign men, allowing you to enjoy the conversation while navigating language and cultural differences.
For instance, ask questions like "How do you spend holidays in your country?" or "What places do you recommend in Japan?" to touch on the other person's values.

Step 3: Meeting in person

Once you feel comfortable with the messaging, it’s time for an in-person meeting.
Choose public and bright places like cafes or hotel lounges, prioritizing safety.
Even if you think "I'm not sure if I like them," meeting in person can lead to feelings of "I feel somewhat safe" or "I want to see them again."
Yoitoki provides a flow that considers such "let's meet first" opportunities, ensuring an environment where you can proceed at your own pace.

Step 4: Proposing next steps

After the initial meeting, try proposing, "Shall we talk again?"
While feeling "not sure if I like them," it’s important to take the time to verify whether you think, "I want to meet again" or "I want to talk more slowly."
Yoitoki supports an adult style of meetings that allows you to progress without rushing through these stages.

4. Common anxieties and how to face them

Anxiety ①: Is it okay to move forward with ambiguous feelings?

→ It's normal to feel "not sure if I like them." In fact, it's a sign that you are calmly reflecting on your feelings. By getting to know the other person gradually, your feelings can often become clearer. What’s important is to base your feelings on "whether it feels comfortable" rather than forcing yourself to "fall in love."

Anxiety ②: Does meeting lead to pressure?

→ Many women feel pressure when meeting as working adults, but when you rush, you tend to overlook the person who is truly right for you. Yoitoki is a meeting place that values "safety and freedom of pace," so it's important to proceed at your own pace.

Anxiety ③: Is meeting foreigners too high of a hurdle?

→ While there may seem to be language and cultural barriers, for those who have a desire to "know about different cultures" or "experience new values," it can be an attractive encounter. Yoitoki is equipped with multilingual support and cultural considerations, allowing you to safely try cross-cultural exchanges.

Anxiety ④: Does "not sure if I like them" make it hard to progress?

→ That's not the case. Rather, being "not sure if I like them" provides a chance to nurture the relationship thoughtfully. "Falling in love from the start" is a story for dramas. Instead, let's cherish the sensation of "feeling safe," "being comfortable together," or "maybe sharing values." Yoitoki supports such natural steps.

5. Summary: Because you are not sure if you like them, act in a way that is true to yourself

The feeling of "not sure if I like them" actually holds value as a starting point for encounters.
Take your time to cherish your feelings and search for connections in a safe place. Utilize your position, experience, and emotional space as a working adult to slowly cultivate relationships.
Yoitoki is a perfect stage for such adult women to meet. It is safe, convenient, and culturally considerate, allowing you to take a step forward even from the stage of "not sure if I like them."
If you currently have someone you are interested in, there is no need to give up just because you feel "not sure if I like them."
Rather, enjoying meetings at your own pace can ultimately lead to a true encounter where you think, "I want to be with this person."
Yoitoki — find your unique connections. Your new step can surely become a turning point for the future.