"At first, it was normal, but suddenly I was asked to meet."

"When I declined the invitation to meet, their attitude changed drastically."

Have you ever had such an experience?

That might actually be a "notranslate">"meet-up enthusiast".

The term "meet-up enthusiast" spread through SNS, online games, and streaming apps.

• Why are they considered annoying?
• Where does one become a meet-up enthusiast?
• Do you also fit this description?
• What are the countermeasures?

In this article, we will thoroughly explain, from a professional psychological counselor's perspective,

why the phenomenon of meet-up enthusiasts occurs,
how to prevent it safely,
and how to engage in healthy meet-ups yourself.

Table of Contents

[30 seconds to understand] What is a meet-up enthusiast?

Why are they called "annoying"?

[By gender] Characteristics of meet-up enthusiasts

[Self-diagnosis] Are you okay?

[Examples] Common meet-up enthusiast patterns

Dangers of meet-up enthusiasts

Thorough explanation of actions to block meet-up enthusiasts

Safe ways to deal with meet-up enthusiasts

[Recommended saving] Template for rejecting meet-up enthusiasts

Difference between meet-up enthusiasts and healthy dating

Three principles to avoid becoming a meet-up enthusiast

Summary

[30 seconds to understand] What is a meet-up enthusiast?

A meet-up enthusiast = "a person who seeks romantic or sexual contact inappropriate for the situation."

• The reason they are disliked is "because they ruin safe spaces."
• Be cautious of quick intimacy and instant meeting proposals.
• Feelings of unease are almost always correct.
• Choosing a safe space is the most important.

The problem is not the meeting itself, but the mismatch with the situation.

Examples

• DMing everyone in a game.
• Persistently asking a streamer for contact.
• Approaching with romantic intentions in a hobby community, etc.

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Why are they called "annoying"?

When you search for "meet-up enthusiast," the top related words are

annoying, creepy, scary, and other negative words.

The biggest reason why meet-up enthusiasts are so disliked is that

they disrupt the safe spaces of others, such as their hobbies or entertainment.

When a sudden strong romantic pressure enters a person's safe space, women, in particular, tend to have a defensive instinct.

[By gender] Characteristics of meet-up enthusiasts

Meet-up enthusiasts exist in a certain number among both men and women. So how can we distinguish them?

Tendencies often seen in men

• They immediately ask to exchange contact information.
• They want to meet at the first meeting.
• Their approach is extremely quick.
• They approach multiple people at the same time.
• Even if rejected, they think "there's still a chance."

Underlying this is a
 "desire to get results (i.e., romantic or sexual relationships) quickly."

Tendencies often seen in women

• They approach for the sake of approval.
• They try to build monetary relationships or give gifts.
• They overly depend on a specific person.
• They have an antagonistic attitude towards other genders.
• They use suggestive posts to flaunt their relationship.

This is often related to
 "anxiety about being abandoned" or "the desire for validation of self-worth."

[Self-diagnosis] Are you okay?

If three or more of the following apply, you should be cautious:

      □ I think it’s faster to meet up right away.
 □ I feel strong anxiety when my message is read but not responded to.
 □ I approach multiple people at the same time.
 □ I confirm my self-worth through romantic relationships.
 □ I close the distance too quickly.

[Examples] Common meet-up enthusiast patterns

Case 1: Gaming type

In a game chat, it goes "Let's be friends" → "What's your LINE?" → "Can we meet?"

This is a pattern where they quickly close the distance.

Case 2: Streaming type

This involves giving gifts to a streamer, then DMing them → making exclusive demands → opposing other listeners. This streaming type often has a strong dependency tendency, requiring more caution.

Case 3: Community type

This refers to people who approach multiple members of the opposite sex at offline meetings of shared hobbyists. In this case, everyone is having fun discussing a shared interest, but the atmosphere is ruined by hints of romantic or sexual relationships, causing others to dislike them.

Dangers of meet-up enthusiasts

Meet-up enthusiasts are often seen as "people who seek romantic and physical relationships anywhere, potentially ruining the atmosphere," but they might be underestimated.

• Personal information leaks
• Becoming a stalker
• Financial troubles
• Mental exhaustion

These can lead to significant issues.

Particularly minors are at a higher risk of being involved in crimes, so increased caution is necessary.

Thorough explanation of actions to block meet-up enthusiasts

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