Table of Contents

Introduction: The Power of Body Language That Speaks More Than Words

1. The Psychology of Crossed Arms: 4 Basic Patterns You Should Know

2. Practical Edition: 5 Points to Observe Crossed Arms During the First Meeting

3. The Golden Timing for Negotiating Compensation: 3 Steps to Utilize Arm Crossing Psychology

4. Manners for the First Meeting: Transportation and Meal Expenses

5. Maintaining Long-Term Relationships: Check the Healthiness with Crossed Arms

Conclusion: Mastering Arm Crossing Psychology for Your Ideal Relationship

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Introduction:The Power of Body Language That Speaks More Than Words

During the first meeting of a sugar arrangement, when the man in front of you crosses his arms, do you understand his true feelings?

In fact, the seemingly casual gesture of crossing arms remarkably reflects the psychological state of the other person. According to the research by world-renowned psychologist Albert Mehrabian, only 7% of the information conveyed in communication comes from words. The remaining 93% is interpreted from tone of voice and body language.

In other words, understanding the psychology of the other person's crossed arms is an essential skill that can influence the negotiation of compensation, the direction of the relationship, and the success of a long-term healthy relationship.

In today’s article, we will provide practical techniques to decode male psychology through the body language of crossed arms and build higher-quality relationships.

1. The Psychology of Crossing Arms:4 Basic Patterns You Should Know

Let's look at 4 representative patterns that you may encounter in a sugar arrangement scenario.

PatternA:Defensive Crossed Arms(Tension, Anxiety, Caution)

Characteristics: The body leans back, arms tightly crossed in front of the chest. The shoulders are raised, and the expression is stiff.

This crossed arms indicate that the man is in a psychologically "protective" posture. This could be due to the tension of meeting for the first time, hesitation about the proposed conditions, or caution towards you.

How to Handle:
 At this stage, suddenly bringing up compensation will have the opposite effect. The priority is to ease the other person's tension.

Try open questions like, “What have you been spending your time on lately?” to listen to the other person's story and respond with a smile, which will gradually melt their defensive mentality.

PatternB:Evaluative Crossed Arms(Thinking, Judging)

Characteristics: Hand on the chin or slightly tilting the head. The gaze is either on you or deep in thought.

This indicates that the man is in a state of processing information and trying to make judgments. He is calmly evaluating your proposals and value. This is often seen in business owners and managers.

How to Handle:
 This is the perfect time to clearly convey your worth. Use strategic silence to give the other person time to think.

Also, specific condition proposals are important. Clarity such as, “4 dinner dates a month, each lasting 3-4 hours, with a requested monthly compensation of ¥○○” fosters trust.

PatternC:Authoritative Crossed Arms(Confidence, Control)

Characteristics: Chest out, arms loosely crossed, occasionally resting one hand on the hip. The gaze is straight on you, exuding an air of confidence.

This shows confidence and a desire to dominate the situation. It is often seen in high-status men like business owners and doctors.

How to Handle:
 It's important to demonstrate an equal partnership with this type. Do not shrink back, assert yourself clearly.

A statement such as, “I want to take this relationship seriously too. I would like to clarify the conditions to create a mutually satisfying arrangement,” is effective.

PatternD:Relaxed Crossed Arms(Comfortable, Intimate)

Characteristics: The body is slightly leaning forward, the arms are loosely crossed and occasionally uncrossed. There is a smile, and eye contact is natural.

This is the most ideal state. The man enjoys being with you, and there are almost no psychological barriers.

How to Handle:
 You can move into deeper topics at this moment. You can naturally discuss specific amounts of compensation, frequency of meetings, and the vision for the relationship.

💎 High-Quality Encounters Utilizing Arm Crossing Psychology

If you can decode the psychology of crossed arms, you have the ability to discern the essence of the other person.

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2. Practical Edition:5 Points to Observe Crossed Arms During the First Meeting

The first meeting of a sugar arrangement is a crucial moment that determines the future relationship. Accurately reading the other person’s crossed arms can give you an advantage in negotiations.

① Timing:When did they cross their arms?

• At the moment of meeting → Tension of a first encounter (Pattern A)
• When discussing compensation → Hesitation or contemplation regarding the amount (Pattern A or B)
• While you are talking → Evaluating (Pattern B)
• Suddenly on a specific topic → That topic is a minefield

② Intensity:How tightly are they crossing their arms?

• Tightly crossed → Strong anxiety or rejection
• Loosely crossed → Relaxed or habitual

③ Combination with Other Body Language

• Crossed arms + Looking away = Discomfort, desire to escape
• Crossed arms + Leaning forward = Interested but cautious
• Crossed arms + Smiling = Favorable evaluation
• Crossed arms + Crossed legs = Double defensive wall, strong caution

④ Changes:How does it change during the flow of conversation?

Pay attention to the moment when the arms uncross. It is a sign that your words have removed the other person's mental barriers.

Conversely, if they suddenly start crossing their arms, it’s possible that the topic just discussed was a minefield.

⑤ Consider Environmental Factors

• Low room temperature → Simply cold
• Habit → That person’s quirk

However, it is important to make a comprehensive judgment considering other body language.

3. The Golden Timing for Negotiating Compensation:3 Steps to Utilize Arm Crossing Psychology

Many women struggle with the question of “when to bring up compensation.” By understanding the psychology of crossed arms, you can pinpoint the optimal moment.

Step1:Wait Until Defensive Crossed Arms Uncross

While the other person is defensive (Pattern A), avoid discussing financial topics. Starting negotiations in this state will only further close their heart.

Focus on building trust with the other person for the first 15-20 minutes without mentioning compensation at all.

Step2:Confirm Relaxed State (PatternD)

When the arms become loose, smiles increase, and the body leans forward, it’s a go sign.

Effective Way to Bring It Up:

“I had a great time talking today. If you don’t mind, I would love to have regular times like this. What do you think?”

Observe the other person's response, and if it’s positive, move on to the next step.

Step3:Present Clear Conditions During Evaluative Crossed Arms (PatternB)

When the other person is deep in thought is the best opportunity to present clear conditions.

Specific Proposal Examples:

“4 times a month, for meals or chats lasting 3-4 hours, I would like a monthly compensation of ¥○○. Since this is our first meeting, could I request transportation and meal expenses?”

Points:

• Clearly state the number of times, duration, and amount in figures
• Avoid vague expressions
• Show willingness to discuss the other person's budget

4. Manners for the First Meeting:Transportation and Meal Expenses

In the first meeting, it is basic etiquette for the man to cover transportation (car expenses) and meal costs.

This reflects mutual respect and serves as a barometer for sincerity in the future relationship. If the other person does not adhere to this etiquette, it is an important indicator of their values and respect for you.

Yoitoki has many gentlemen registered who understand these basic manners. You can start your sugar arrangement in an environment where you can expect sincere responses from the first meeting.

5. Maintaining Long-Term Relationships:Check the Healthiness with Crossed Arms

Even after a good relationship is established, crossed arms will continue to serve as a barometer for the healthiness of the relationship.

Signs of a Healthy Relationship

• Crossed arms decrease each time you meet
• Do not become defensive when discussing compensation
• Open attitude towards your proposals
• Increased smiles

Yellow Light for the Relationship

• Recently increased defensive crossed arms
• Always crossing arms on specific topics
• Increased authoritative crossed arms
• No longer making eye contact

Catching these signs early and having open dialogue can allow for relationship repair or renegotiation.

Conclusion:Mastering Arm Crossing Psychology for Your Ideal Relationship

Success in sugar arrangements is not about luck. It is the result of insight to read the other person's true feelings, clear self-assertion, and strategic communication that pursues mutual benefits.

From the body language of crossing arms, you can:

✓ Discern the other person's true feelings even on the first meeting
 ✓ Effectively advance negotiations for compensation
 ✓ Build long-term trust
 ✓ Early identify insincere partners

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