| Papa-katsu Dating |
| Papa-katsu Dangerous Persons |
I have.
And what's more, the person was kind from the beginning, listened to me, gave me gifts,
and didn’t say anything even if we only had dinner together.
But in the end, he turned out to be “the most troublesome guy in my life.”
📚 Table of Contents
Meeting the guy I wanted to date through papa-katsu
The moment when the line between real love and papa-katsu becomes unclear
The warning sign: "Since we're dating, I don't need to give you an allowance anymore, right?"
The characteristics of the “dangerous papa-katsu men” I met
The reason I was able to get away from a landmine papa was "Yoitoki yoitoki"
Summary｜Have you been able to draw the line between papa-katsu and love?
◆ At first, he only seemed like a “nice guy”
I met him on Yoitoki yoitoki.
The app had a calm atmosphere and most people communicated politely,
so even as a papa-katsu beginner I felt, "This might be a safe place."
He was in his late 40s, a businessman.
Good at talking, and a great listener.
He said, "I don't want to pressure you, let's just meet casually."
The first time was just dinner.
Transportation expenses + 20,000 yen.
The second time was also just dinner.
On the third time, he said, "It's fine if nothing happens again tonight."
That actually made me trust him, and before I knew it,
I was thinking, "Maybe it's safe to have a physical relationship with him."
◆ The moment the boundary between sex friend and papa blurred
The 4th time, I naturally went to his hotel.
He was gentle, considerate, and had a mature air about him.
After that night, he changed a little.
"Are there any other papas?" "I want to be the only one you meet."
"Rather than papa-katsu, I want to seriously date you."
His words made me happy. But,
“Papa-katsu” and “serious love” may seem similar but are completely different.
I realized that my feelings were swaying as I accepted his support.
But I also began to notice a kind of “clinginess” in him at the same time.
◆ "Since we're dating, you don't need an allowance, right?"
He said that the 6th time we met.
Now thinking of himself as my "boyfriend",
he still gave gifts and paid for travel, but tried to eliminate the "allowance".
Lots of LINE messages, sudden invitations,
and if I refused, he’d get grumpy and leave me on read.
He was totally a “landmine papa”.
◆ Because it was Yoitoki, I was able to get away
Honestly, I was scared.
I worried that if I blocked him, he might expose me at work, or try to find me on social media.
But Yoitoki has,
Profile privacy settings
Message blocking features
Support for reporting to the management
so I was able to calmly end the relationship.
◆ "I want to date you" can be a trap
When doing papa-katsu, there are moments when you think, "Maybe with this person...".
But sometimes, that's just a convenient excuse to reset the relationship for his own benefit.
"Since we're like lovers, you don't need money, right?"
"It's okay for me to monopolize you, right?"
"If you're my girlfriend, you'll do more for me, right?"
If you let words like that sway your heart, it's dangerous.
That's exactly why I always remind myself that “papa-katsu is papa-katsu”, and I try to keep my cool.
Summary｜“Love” and “dependence” are different. “Kindness” and “control” are different too.
With papa-katsu, you hear sweet words,
and sometimes you can truly connect with someone as a person if things go well.
But the moment you blur those boundaries,
you can lose control of the relationship.
At times like that, Yoitoki yoitoki is designed so you can keep your distance if you need to.
You can meet or part ways at just the right distance.
For me now, that's exactly what I need.
