"When I'm called a 'p-activity girl', it stings my heart just a little. But now, I feel like my choices weren't wrong."

 

 

 

Riho (21 years old), who attends a private university in Tokyo, is what people call a “p-activity girl”.
On weekends, she meets someone for a meal, has a conversation, and simply sells her time with the minimum requirements.

There is nothing glamorous or dramatic in her story.
But that very “realness” is exactly the reality that girls doing p-activity today are facing.

 

The reason I started p-activity was because of “not having enough” in everyday life

"My part-time wages almost disappear to rent and living expenses. Just going to a movie or buying clothes every so often gives me this overwhelming guilt."

At first, it felt like just earning a bit of pocket money. But with ordinary dating apps, even if I say "just dinner", it doesn't get across and I've had bad experiences.
YOITOKI I found out about because of a recommendation from a senior at the same university.

"The 'condition-based' system is totally different. Just knowing the travel and meal costs up front — I realized how much peace of mind that brings."

 

Is it true that “p-activity girls” are “emotionally detached”?

For Riho, "detached" doesn’t mean being emotionless.
In fact, she says it's a “method” to maintain her own boundaries and to stay true to herself.

"Relationships where I don't have to force myself to be cute are actually comfortable. Honestly, I think it's more honest than ordinary dating."

Riho meets with 2–3 people a month. Before meeting, she makes it clear via messages: “Today, I just want to chat lightly for an hour at a café.”
She simply doesn’t meet people who don’t understand that.

"It's not about being chosen, it's about 'I choose.' That sense is important."

 

You can't be a p-activity girl unless you're strong

"It’s inevitable that people misunderstand. Just saying you do p-activity, people think you’re playing around or taking the easy way. But it’s really not like that at all."

There’s a kind of enlightened strength in Riho’s words.
In reality, to do p-activity as a woman, you need negotiation skills, risk management, and a cool head.

YOITOKI Features like “limited profile photo access” or “auto-deletion of chat histories” in apps like this are, for her, “support for staying strong”.

"There are surprisingly few places where you’re not blamed for meeting weird people."

 

'P-activity girls'—it's just a label

Society loves to put labels on things. “P-activity girl” is just one of them.
But behind every label, there is a personal story.

For Riho, p-activity wasn’t “running away” or “selling herself”—it was a choice to live true to herself.

"At first I was scared. But now, I can say with pride, 'This is just another way to live.' I can’t tell anyone, but I want to affirm my own choices."

 

Summary: “P-activity girls” live by their own choices

Papa-katsu, PJ, p-activity girls—there are many names, but those who are there are
women who have a way of connecting to society on their own terms, not dependent on anyone.

What they need is not “criticism”, but “understanding” and “a safe space”.
And undoubtedly, one of those spaces is rule-based apps like YOITOKI .