Table of Contents

Sponsor? Why that word made me uncomfortable

 

Sex with a friend’s girlfriend, and the emptiness left behind

 

What I missed while only chasing dating app rankings

 

Unexpected discovery, Yoitoki

 

Are adult relationships something bad?

 

1. Sponsor? Why that word made me uncomfortable

When I first heard the word “sponsor,” I immediately thought of a negative image.
It sounded like buying someone with money, or meeting without any emotion.

But after living in Japan, I realized that isn’t always what “sponsor” means.

Sometimes, it’s someone who gives warm support to another’s stable daily life,
or a relationship where, even if there are no strong feelings, they still cheer for each other’s lives.

That was the meaning of “sponsor” that I didn’t know before.

2. Sex with a friend’s girlfriend, and the emptiness left behind

In the past, among friends,
“I had sex with my friend’s girlfriend”
stories like this used to go around like a trend.

It sounded fun and thrilling to hear...
But after actually experiencing such a relationship,
all that was left was loneliness and self-loathing.

It didn’t have to be love,
but at least I wanted a relationship based on mutual respect, that could relieve loneliness.

3. What I missed while only chasing dating app rankings

So I also tried various dating apps.
Tinder, Pairs, Omiai... I even compared dating app rankings to pick one.

But most of the popular apps were

focused on people in their 20s,

 

appearance-oriented,

 

and had lots of shallow conversations.

 

For someone like me,

in my mid-40s,

 

a foreigner living alone in Japan,

 

and tired of emotionless relationships,
those apps only made me feel more exhausted.

 

4. Unexpected discovery, Yoitoki

By chance, the app I found was **Yoitoki**.

Honestly, at first I was put off because it was introduced as a “sponsor-only” dating app.
But when I looked closer, it was completely different.

🟡 An app for middle-aged Vietnamese/Korean men living in Japan
🟡 Focused on mature connections with Japanese women
🟡 More people were looking for lifelong partners than just casual chatting

The matching system was smart, too—
it suggested partners who fit exactly what I was looking for in a relationship, which surprised me.

5. Are adult relationships something bad?

It’s not that I want a romantic relationship.
But I also didn’t want a relationship that was only about spending the night together.

I just missed someone who could say warm words to me at the end of the day,
someone who understood my lonely heart.

Now I’ve come to realize—
Adult relationships,
honestly stating the conditions, and not forcing emotions,
can also be meaningful and warm.

If now you need

someone you can truly connect with,

 

someone to share your life with,

 

or just a supporter,

 

try Yoitoki.There may be new connections waiting for you that you’ve never known before.

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