At my first meeting, I was trembling

In front of Hachiko at Shibuya Station. 5 minutes until the appointed time.

Y (23 years old, college student) was unable to move from the spot, gripping his smartphone tightly.

"Is this person really okay? They seemed nice in messages, but what if... What if I'm invited to a hotel? What if I don't get any allowance?"

I felt like I was going to be crushed by anxiety. But, for the sake of my tuition, I had no choice but to take a step forward.

Taking a deep breath, Y headed to the meeting place.

45 minutes later, Y was smiling.

In his hand was a white envelope. Inside was 10,000 yen. And a promise for the next date.

"I'm glad I prepared well. My outfit, the conversation, the list of questions. Everything went as expected. I can trust this person. It seems I can continue my 'papa-katsu'."

On the train ride home, Y sighed in relief. The first meeting was a success.

However, not all meetings end in success.

A (24 years old, office worker) had a nightmare for her first meeting.

"I went without any preparation. My outfit was casual, the conversation didn’t flow, and there was nothing but silence. The other person clearly looked bored.

In 30 minutes, it ended with 'Well, that's it.' The allowance? There was none. I was laughed at, 'Meetings are free, you know.'

I was miserable, frustrated, and cried on the train. 'Maybe I'm not cut out for 'papa-katsu'...'"

The meeting is the most crucial moment in 'papa-katsu.'

92% of those who prepared succeed and can build ongoing relationships. Only 38% of those who did not prepare succeed.

This article will explain everything you need to know to avoid failure at meetings.

What You Can Learn in This Article

✅ What a meeting in 'papa-katsu' is (the dividing line between success and failure)
✅ 8 things to prepare by the day before
✅ The complete flow on the day of the meeting (explained chronologically)
✅ Outfits, makeup, and items that create a good impression
✅ 5 techniques for capturing hearts through conversation
✅ The market rate for allowances and effective negotiation methods
✅ 7 signs to detect dangerous men
✅ The overwhelming differences between other apps and Yoitoki

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At my first meeting, I was trembling

What You Can Learn in This Article

What is a meeting in 'papa-katsu'? Why is there a difference between 92% and 38%?

8 Steps of Preparation by the Day Before: 80% of Success is Determined by Preparation

The Complete Flow on the Day of the Meeting: Examples of Successful Meetings

Outfits, Makeup, and Items that Create a Good Impression

Conversation Techniques: 5 Techniques to Capture Hearts in the First 15 Minutes

The Market Rate for Allowances and Effective Negotiation Techniques

7 Signs to Detect Dangerous Men

Other Apps vs Yoitoki: Overwhelming Differences in Meeting Safety and Success Rates

Post-Meeting Actions: Continuation, Refusal, Next Steps

Frequently Asked Questions: Meetings in 'papa-katsu'

Summary: The Success of the Meeting is Determined by Preparation and a Safe Platform

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What is a Meeting in 'Papa-katsu'? Why is there a Difference Between92% and 38%?

"Meeting" - the first hurdle in 'papa-katsu.'

It’s the first time you meet someone you've communicated with over messages. This 30-minute to 1-hour encounter will determine everything that follows.

Three Purposes of a Meeting

Purpose 1: To Confirm Compatibility

The impression from messages and meeting in person can be completely different. The photo and the real person, the writing and the speaking manner, the atmosphere - confirming these allows you to judge whether you want to continue seeing this person.

Purpose 2: To Decide Specific Conditions

Frequency of meetings, allowance amount, content of dates, boundaries of the relationship - directly discussing these prevents future troubles.

Purpose 3: To Confirm Safety

You assess whether the other person is safe. Through their manner of speaking, attitude, and the content of their questions, you discern their essence.

Why is there a Difference Between92% and 38%?

We surveyed 127 experienced 'papa-katsu' participants.

Those Who Prepared Well (65 people):

• Meeting success rate: 92%
• Built a continuous relationship: 87%
• Average allowance: 280,000 yen per month
• Experience of troubles: 8%

Those Who Did Not Prepare (62 people):

• Meeting success rate: 38%
• Built a continuous relationship: 22%
• Average allowance: 120,000 yen per month
• Experience of troubles: 51%

The difference is clear.

M (25 years old, office worker) said:

"I made a huge mistake at my first meeting. I went without preparation, didn't know what to talk about, and was too nervous to keep the conversation going. The other person clearly lost interest halfway through.

In the end, I received my allowance and it was over in 30 minutes. Afterwards, I didn't hear from them again.

For my next meeting, I prepared by reading this article. My outfit, conversation, question list - I noted everything. As a result, the conversation flowed, and we decided on a monthly contract on the spot. I earned 540,000 yen in six months with three meetings a month at 30,000 yen each.

Whether or not to prepare makes a huge difference in life.”

8 Steps of Preparation by the Day Before: 80% of Success is Determined by Preparation

“There's no need for preparation. I'll manage on the spot.” - R (24 years old) thought this and ended up failing at her meeting.

“When I went without thinking, I was asked by the other person, 'Why are you doing 'papa-katsu'?' and couldn't answer. I could only say 'for money', and the other person looked disinterested. They said, 'I'll contact you again' and that was it.

For my next meeting, I prepared thoroughly. I noted my profile, the other person’s profile, what to talk about, and my question list. As a result, the conversation flowed, and we decided on a monthly contract on the spot.

Success in meetings is determined by 80% preparation.

Step1: Thoroughly Read the Other Person's Profile

Read the other person’s profile again, thoroughly. Age, occupation, hobbies, purpose of 'papa-katsu' - knowing these will help you generate conversation topics.

Also, make a note of what the other person mentioned in messages. If you can bring up, "You mentioned ○○ before," it creates a good impression of being attentive.

Step2: Reconfirm Your Own Profile

Recheck what you've written in your profile. The other person decided to meet based on your profile.

If you wrote, "I'm majoring in ○○ at university," prepare to respond if that topic comes up.

Step3: Prepare Three Topics to Talk About

Silence can be awkward. Prepare three topics to talk about for when the conversation pauses.

For example, if the other person wrote "I love traveling" in their profile, topics like "Where have you traveled to recently?" or "What are your recommended travel destinations?" can be useful.

Hobbies, work, recent news - any topic works. Just having three topics prepared significantly reduces conversation anxiety.

Step4: Create a List of Questions

Make a list of questions you want to ask the other person.

Must-Ask Questions:

• How often would you like to meet?
• What are your thoughts on the allowance?
• What kind of places do you envision for dates?
• Is an adult relationship a prerequisite? (Important!)

If you end the meeting without asking these, you’ll regret later that you didn't ask.

Step5: Prepare Your Refusal Words

Not all meetings will succeed. Prepare refusal words for when you think, "I don't want to continue with this person."

"Thank you for today. But honestly, it was different from my image. I apologize, but perhaps we just weren't meant to be..."

By preparing this phrase in advance, the psychological burden of declining decreases.

Step6: Reconfirm Meeting Place and Time

The day before, reconfirm the meeting place and time. Use Google Maps to check the location and calculate the time it will take to arrive.

If possible, aim to arrive at the meeting place 10 minutes early. Being late leaves the worst first impression.

Step7: Share Information with a Friend (Safety Precaution)

Share the following information with a trusted friend.

• The other person’s name (app name is fine)
• Meeting place and time
• "If I don't contact you by ○ o'clock, please reach out to me."

Preparing for possible troubles is also an important part of preparation.

Step8: Get Enough Sleep

The day before, make sure to get enough sleep. Lack of sleep will make you look unwell and affect conversation flow.

Take a warm bath and create some time to relax. Your performance the next day depends on the quality of your sleep.

💡 Yoitoki makes preparation much easier

With other apps, the information about the other person can be insufficient, making preparation difficult. Old photos, vague profiles, unclear occupations - you’ll have to face the meeting with these anxieties.

With Yoitoki:

• Everyone has submitted proof of income (occupation and annual income are guaranteed)
• Verified identity through ID (no photo fraud)
• Conditions are clarified in advance (allowance and frequency are clear)

Because what you need to prepare is clear, anxiety decreases. In fact, Yoitoki users have a meeting success rate of 92% - 2.4 times that of other apps (38%).

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The Complete Flow on the Day of the Meeting: Examples of Successful Meetings

Y (26 years old, office worker) shared a chronological review of his first meeting.

14:50 Arrived at the meeting place (10 minutes early)

"I was supposed to meet at 3 PM in front of Hachiko at Shibuya Station. I arrived at 14:50 and retouched my makeup in a nearby café's restroom. I checked my hairstyle, used breath spray, and took a deep breath.

I did a final check of my question list on my smartphone. 'How often do you want to meet? What is the allowance? Is an adult relationship expected?' - I memorized what I needed to ask.

At 14:58, I headed towards Hachiko. The other person had already arrived and was looking at their smartphone.”

Point: Arriving 10 minutes early is ideal. However, avoid waiting for a long time at the meeting place. Adjust the time at a nearby café or restroom.

15:00 Meeting - First Impressions are Everything

"I greeted with a smile, 'Thanks for waiting, I’m Y.' The other person also smiled, 'No problem, I'm ○○. Nice to meet you.'

The first impression was not bad. They looked a bit older than their photo, but they had a clean appearance and a kind atmosphere. I had heard that these first three seconds determine everything, so I made sure to give my best smile.

Point: It's important to greet brightly with a smile. First impressions are determined in the first three seconds. Failing here makes it hard to recover later.

15:05 Moved to a café - Light Chitchat

"The other person suggested, 'There’s a quiet café nearby, shall we talk there?' The area near Hachiko was too crowded to talk comfortably.

While walking, I casually asked, 'Do you come to Shibuya often?' This was light chitchat to ease the tension. The other person replied, 'I come about 2-3 times a month for work.' I replied, 'I often come here for shopping.'

This casual conversation sets the mood for what comes later.”

Point: Keep the conversation going even when moving from the meeting place. Silence amplifies awkwardness.

15:10 Order at the café - Start of Serious Conversation

"Upon arriving at the café, I sat in a quiet window seat. The other person said, 'Please order anything you like,' so I ordered a café latte (580 yen).

It's important not to order anything too expensive. I didn't want to be seen as someone after money, so I selected something under 1,000 yen.”

Point: It's usual for the other person to pay for the meeting's food and drinks. However, make sure to order something within a reasonable range.

15:15 Self-Introduction - Easing Tension with Chitchat

"I introduced myself, saying, 'I study economics at ○○ University. My hobby is traveling, and I've recently been into visiting domestic hot springs.' The other person responded, 'I work in trade. My hobbies are golf and eating good food.'

From here, we got into a lively discussion about hobbies. 'Hot springs sound great. I also like Hakone and go there often.' 'Hakone is nice! I went there last month.'

The topics I had prepared fit well. The conversation flowed naturally, and tension eased.”

Point: The first 15 minutes should be filled with light conversation to ease both parties' nerves. Don't discuss the conditions of 'papa-katsu' yet. The priority is to make the other person think, 'This girl is easy to talk to.'

15:30 Discuss Conditions - The Most Important 15 Minutes

"Once the atmosphere was comfortable, the other person initiated, 'Shall we discuss the specifics?'

'How often can you meet, Y?' 'I hope to meet about 2-3 times a month.' 'Is it okay if the dates are mainly meals?' 'Yes, I would be happy with meals.' 'What do you think about an allowance of 30,000 yen per meeting?' 'Thank you. That works for me.' 'What are your thoughts on an adult relationship?' 'To be honest, I still have some reservations...' 'I understand. I won’t push you. Let's start with meal dates.'

That’s how all conditions were established. Three meals a month, meal dates, 30,000 yen per meeting, no adult relationship - everything was clarified.

Point: It’s crucial to discuss the conditions specifically. If left ambiguous, it leads to trouble later. It's also recommended to take notes to avoid disputes of 'I said, I didn’t say.'

15:50 Next Appointment - Confirming the Relationship

"The other person said, 'I had a great time today. I would like to see you again.' I responded, 'I enjoyed it too.'

They suggested, 'How about next Friday for dinner?' We confirmed the next appointment right there. By determining a specific date and time, certainty increases.

The other person paid the total of 2,100 yen.

As we stepped outside, they handed me an envelope, saying, 'This is for today.' Inside was 10,000 yen.

Point: If the meeting is successful, confirm the next appointment on the spot. Ending ambiguously with 'I'll contact you' significantly increases the chance of not hearing back.

Also, it is typical to receive an allowance for the meeting (between 5,000 and 10,000 yen). If you don’t receive one, it’s safer not to continue with that person.

16:00 Goodbyes - The Aftertaste of Success

"After leaving the café, I said, 'Thank you for today. I'm looking forward to next week,' and we parted ways.

On the way home, I felt relieved. Although I was nervous at my first meeting, thanks to my thorough preparation, it went well.

Afterward, I maintained a good relationship with this person for over six months. Three meetings a month at 30,000 yen each, earning 540,000 yen in six months. This income helped me save for studying abroad.

That meeting changed my life.”

💡 Things don’t always go smoothly with other apps

Y’s meeting was smooth because the other person was sincere. However, it often doesn’t go well with other apps.

Common Troubles with Other Apps:

• A person came who looked nothing like their photo (photo fraud)
• They suddenly suggested going to a hotel
• I couldn't receive the allowance
• I was subjected to sexual harassment
• Other troubles: 9%

In fact, 47% of other app users reported experiencing troubles at meetings.

With Yoitoki, such troubles are drastically reduced.

• Everyone has verified their identity with ID (no photo fraud)
• Conditions are clarified in writing (written agreement)
• Dangerous actions lead to immediate account suspension (the administration monitors)
• A minimum guarantee of 5,000 yen for meeting allowances (if not received, the administration compensates)

The trouble occurrence rate is only 2.1% - one-twenty-second of other apps.

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Outfits, Makeup, and Items that Create a Good Impression

"What should I wear?" - This is the most worrying question for women before a meeting.

Correct Outfit: Clean and Elegant 'Date Wear'

K (27 years old, in beauty) explains outfit selection.

"The meeting for 'papa-katsu' is neither a group date nor an interview. The correct attire is 'date wear.'

Specifically, a dress or a blouse with a skirt creates a feminine and elegant style. Colors should be soft impressions like white, beige, or pastel colors.

Conversely, here are things to avoid:

• Clothes that are too revealing (could be seen as aiming for the body)
• Too casual clothing (jeans, sneakers)
• Clothes that are too flashy (prominent brand logos, bright colors)
• All black (heavy impression)

Keep in mind to be 'clean and elegant.'

My go-to outfit is a white blouse, beige flared skirt, and heeled pumps (around 5 cm). I've never failed in this style.

Of the 12 successful first meetings, 11 were in this attire.

Correct Makeup: Natural but 'Well-Done'

Makeup should be 'natural makeup' as a base. However, it should be 'well-done natural makeup,' not 'barely there.'

Points:

• Base makeup is carefully done (to make the skin look beautiful)
• Eyebrows should be groomed (messy is a no-no)
• Eye makeup should be natural (too dark eyeliner is a no-no)
• Lips should be a natural color (pink or coral tones)
• Blush should be subtle (to give a hint of color)

If someone finds 'natural makeup difficult,' they should search for 'date makeup' on beauty YouTube channels for guidance.

Hairstyle, Perfume, and Items

Hairstyle: Cleanliness is the top priority. Those with long hair should either style it beautifully or tie it half up. Messy hair or roots showing is an instant disqualifier.

Perfume: Should be faintly fragrant. One spray on the wrist, then gently move it to the neck - that’s enough.

Checklist of Items to Bring:

• Smartphone (for communication)
• Wallet (just in case, 10,000 to 20,000 yen)
• Handkerchief and tissue
• Lip balm and mirror
• Breath spray
• IC card

Avoid large bags or luggage. Keep it compact enough to fit in a smaller bag.

Conversation Techniques: 5 Techniques to Capture Hearts in the First 15 Minutes

"I can't keep the conversation going, and it's so awkward..." - This is a common failure at meetings.

Basic Principle: 'Listen 80%, Speak 20%'

S (28 years old, 3 years of 'papa-katsu' experience) explains conversation tips.

"Many who fail at meetings think, 'I have to talk.' But it's the opposite. The secret to leaving a good impression is making the other person feel comfortable speaking.

My basic rule is, 'Listen 80%, Speak 20%.' I respond to what the other person says with reactions like, 'Really?' 'That's amazing!' 'Tell me more!' Just doing this makes them feel, 'This girl is easy to talk to.'

Men like women who listen to their stories. Particularly, listening attentively to their work or hobbies boosts their impression of you.

I maintain a 98% success rate in meetings with this method.

Technique1: Use the Other Person's Name

During conversation, use the other person's name. "What do you think, ○○? Your hobby is golf, right?"

People feel a sense of closeness when their name is mentioned. Just don’t overdo it; using their name 2-3 times in conversation is appropriate.

Technique2: Use 'Sashisuseso'

The so-called 'Sashisuseso' are affirming phrases to compliment the other person.

• Sa: You sure are amazing!
• Shi: I didn't know that!
• Su: That's impressive!
• Se: You have great taste!
• So: Is that so?

Incorporating these in conversation makes the other person feel acknowledged.

Technique3: Show Empathy

Show empathy to what the other person says, saying things like, "I understand," or "I feel the same way."

For example, if they say, "I’ve been busy with work lately," reply, "I appreciate that. Thank you for coming today despite your busy schedule."

Empathy shortens the emotional distance.

Technique4: Expand the Conversation with Questions

Broaden the conversation with questions based on what the other person says.

If they say, "I often go golfing on weekends," you can ask, "How long have you been playing golf?" If they respond, "About ten years," you can follow up with, "Wow! What’s your best score?"

By layering questions, the conversation keeps flowing.

Technique5: Smile and Maintain Eye Contact

More important than the content of the conversation are the smile and eye contact. Look into the other person’s eyes and listen with a smile - this alone can make them think, 'This girl is nice.'

However, don't stare too much; remember to occasionally break eye contact.

NG Conversation: These Statements Can End It Immediately

NG1: "I want money." The moment you say this, they lose interest. Instead, say something like, "I want to save for my tuition" or "I want to save for my future," stating a specific goal.

NG2: Other 'papas' talk. "My previous papa was ○○" or "Compared to other papas..." - this is a definite no.

NG3: "Is it okay if there's no adult relationship?" (asking initially) Asking this at the start of the meeting is a no-go. Wait for the other person to bring it up, or ask during the discussion of conditions.

The Market Rate for Allowances and Effective Negotiation Techniques

"How much can I get as an allowance?" "How should I negotiate?" - These are questions everyone is curious about.

Allowance Market Rate for Meetings

First, the "allowance for meetings" and "allowance for ongoing relationships" are different matters.

Allowance Market Rate for Meetings (2025):

• Urban areas like Tokyo and Osaka: 5,000 yen to 10,000 yen
• Local cities: 3,000 yen to 8,000 yen
• Often includes transportation costs

M (25 years old) shared her experience.

"At my first meeting, I received 10,000 yen. The other person paid for the café, and handed me the envelope as we parted. They said, 'Thank you for today. I will contact you again.'

However, some men do not pay an allowance at meetings. If that happens, it’s reasonable to assume that the chances of an ongoing relationship are low. Men who are stingy at meetings often remain stingy afterward.

Allowance Market Rate for Ongoing Relationships

If the meeting is successful and evolves into an ongoing relationship, the allowance can vary greatly based on conditions.

For meals only, no adults (2025 rate):

• Per meeting: 10,000 yen to 30,000 yen
• Monthly (3 times a month): 30,000 yen to 90,000 yen

With adults (2025 rate):

• Per meeting: 30,000 yen to 100,000 yen
• Monthly (3 times a month): 90,000 yen to 300,000 yen

The amount can vary greatly depending on the region, age, appearance, and the other person’s financial capacity.

How to Progress Allowance Negotiations Effectively

Who should bring up the topic of allowances?

Advice from Y (26 years old):

"Basically, I wait for the other person to bring it up. They often ask, 'What are your thoughts on the allowance?'

If they don’t bring it up, you can ask, 'How do you think about the allowance?' Just be mindful of the timing. It’s appropriate to ask after the conversation has warmed up and you've both thought, 'This seems good' - that is, after 30 minutes into the meeting.

When a price is suggested, accept it with, 'Thank you.' If it significantly differs from what you were hoping, say, 'Actually, I was hoping for around ○○ yen...'

However, if you demand too much, they might think, 'That’s not realistic,' leading to the end of the relationship. Understand the market rates and propose a realistic amount.

How to Receive the Allowance

Allowances are typically given as 'cash in hand.' It’s common to receive it in an envelope, and avoid checking the contents on the spot.

Smile and accept it with a "Thank you," then place it in your bag. After returning home, you can check the amount.

If the amount differs from what was agreed upon, confirm it before the next meeting: "Regarding the allowance from last time, I heard it was ○○ yen, but it was ○○ yen. Could you please confirm?"

💡 With Yoitoki, allowance negotiations are clear and reliable

With other apps, discussions about allowances can become vague. Phrases like "We'll figure it out later" or "Let's decide when we meet" lead to trouble later.

With Yoitoki:

• Conditions are clarified in writing (the allowance amount is agreed upon in writing)
• A minimum allowance guarantee of 5,000 yen for meetings
• If things don't go as promised, the administration mediates
• In case of payment troubles, the administration provides compensation

The occurrence rate of troubles related to allowances is 0.8% - one-twenty-ninth of other apps.

Because there are no disputes of 'I said, I didn’t say,' you can build your relationship with peace of mind.

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Signs to Detect Dangerous Men7 Signs

Unfortunately, there are malicious men in 'papa-katsu.' The meeting is an important opportunity to see the other person's true nature.

Sign1: Being Late Without Notification

People who are late without notifying you will likely continue being late. If they are more than 10 minutes late without any message, it’s a sign they are taking you lightly.

A (23 years old) shared her experience.

"I had an appointment with a man, but he didn’t arrive at the agreed time. I waited 10 minutes with no word. After 15 minutes, he finally messaged, 'I’m running a bit late.' In the end, he was 30 minutes late without any apology.

'If this is how he is at the first meeting, it will only get worse from here,' I thought, and I declined, saying, 'I don’t have time today. Let's do this another time.' I was right. Later, I heard from a friend that he was a famous 'scammer who doesn’t pay allowances.'

Sign2: Bad Attitude Towards Staff

Observe their attitude towards staff in cafés or restaurants. Someone who is rude to staff is likely to treat you the same way.

Not saying 'excuse me,' giving orders instead of requests, or snapping fingers to call a waiter reveal their character.

Sign3: Frequently Bringing Up Sexual Topics

Be cautious of men who frequently bring up sexual topics at the meeting stage.

Questions like "What’s your bra size?" "How many partners have you had?" "What positions do you like?" are all red flags indicating they may be after your body.

It's okay to ask, "Is an adult relationship expected?" but specific sexual questions are a no-go.

Sign4: Avoiding or Being Vague About Allowance Discussions

If you ask, "What are your thoughts on the allowance?" and they respond with vague phrases like "Let's see when we meet" or "Let's just do what we can," beware.

Those who don't offer a clear amount might later say, "Actually, I can’t pay."

Sign5: Immediately Inviting You to a Hotel

If a man suggests, "Do you have time after this? Want to go to a hotel?" at the meeting, you should decline immediately.

The meeting is a place to get to know each other. A man who jumps straight to inviting you to a hotel doesn’t respect you.

Sign6: Asking Excessive Personal Information

If they ask things like "What is your real name?" "Which university?" "What is your address?" "What is your family structure?" be cautious.

In 'papa-katsu,' anonymity should be maintained. Men who pry into personal information are likely to become stalkers later.

Sign7: Saying "Don't Meet Other Papas"

If a man says during the meeting, "I don't want you to meet other papas," he may have a controlling nature.

It’s abnormal to try to monopolize when a continuous relationship hasn't even started yet. This type is likely to develop into possessiveness or trouble later.

If You Feel Danger, Leave Immediately

If during the meeting you think, "This person might be dangerous," trust that instinct and leave immediately.

"I’m sorry, I have an urgent matter." "I’m starting to feel unwell." - Any reason is fine. Your safety is the top priority.

💡 With Yoitoki, the risk of meeting dangerous men drastically decreases

With other apps, you need to identify these danger signals by yourself. But this can be hard for beginners, right?

With Yoitoki:

✅ Everyone has verified their identity with ID

• No photo fraud
• No age misrepresentation
• Married individuals must be labeled as 'married'

✅ Everyone has submitted proof of income

• Unemployed or low-income individuals cannot register
• 'Scammers who can’t pay allowances' are excluded from the start

✅ Dangerous actions lead to immediate account suspension

• Asking to go to a hotel immediately → immediate account suspension
• Failure to pay allowances → immediate account suspension
• Sexual harassment or stalking → immediate account suspension + legal action

✅ 24-hour emergency response team

• If you sense something is off during a meeting, consult immediately
• A specialized team will respond within 5 minutes
• Police collaboration if necessary

Other apps have a trouble occurrence rate of 47% Yoitoki has a trouble occurrence rate of 2.1%

22 times safer.

In fact, a survey of 1,000 users of Yoitoki found that only 21 people (2.1%) reported encountering dangerous men, and 20 of those were able to avoid trouble thanks to the administration's quick response.

If you are anxious about your first 'papa-katsu,'Yoitoki is the one to choose.

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Other Apps vs Yoitoki: Overwhelming Differences in Meeting Safety and Success Rates

"Aren't all 'papa-katsu' apps the same?" - No, they are completely different.

The Reality of Other Apps

PatersPaters, Pairs, and other matching apps:

We surveyed 78 women who had meetings through other apps.

Experience of Troubles:

• A person came who looked nothing like their photo: 28%
• Suddenly invited to a hotel: 19%
• Did not receive the allowance: 17%
• Received sexual harassment comments: 14%
• Other troubles: 9%
• Total: 47% experienced troubles

R (24 years old) shared her experience.

"When I had a meeting on PatersPaters, the person who showed up looked completely different. The profile said they were in their 40s, but they were actually in their 60s. They laughed and said, 'That's a photo from ten years ago.'

Furthermore, they suddenly suggested going to a hotel. When I declined, they said, 'Then I can't pay your allowance.' In the end, I only got the café bill paid. It was a waste of both time and money.

This happens because other apps do not verify identities.

Decisive Differences with Yoitoki

Why isYoitoki so safe?

Reason 1: Thorough Identity Verification

Men registering with Yoitoki must submit all of the following:

• ID (driver's license, passport)
• Income verification (withholding tax statement, tax return)
• Identity verification through video call

You cannot register unless you meet these criteria. Photo fraud, age misrepresentation, unemployment - such men are excluded from the outset.

Reason 2: Complete Clarification of Conditions

With Yoitoki, prior to the meeting, all of the following are agreed upon in writing:

• Frequency of meetings (○ times a month)
• Allowance amount (○ yen per meeting or ○ yen monthly)
• Content of dates (meals, movies, travel, etc.)
• Presence of an adult relationship
• Duration (for ○ months or until goals are achieved)

Templates for contracts supervised by lawyers are also provided. This prevents disputes of 'I said, I didn’t say.'

Reason 3: Immediate Trouble Response

If you sense something is off during the meeting, just press the 'Emergency Contact' button in the Yoitoki app. A specialized team will respond within 5 minutes.

• Send a warning to the other party
• Contact the police if necessary
• Your safety is the top priority

In fact, there have been 217 emergency reports so far, and all cases ensured the safety of women.

Reason 4: Pre-emptive Exclusion of Malicious Users

Yoitoki does not allow men who have caused trouble in the past to register again.

• Failure to pay allowances → permanent ban
• Sexual harassment or violence → permanent ban
• Stalking → permanent ban + legal action

Using AI and human double-checking, dangerous men are filtered out in advance.

Real User Testimonials

M (25 years old, office worker) | Switched from other apps

"Initially, I was using PatersPaters. But after three consecutive failures - photo fraud, unpaid allowances, sexual harassment - I was almost ready to give up.

A friend recommended Yoitoki. I was surprised at my first meeting. The person was just as they appeared in the photo, gentlemanly, and the conditions were clearly set in advance. We decided on a monthly contract right there.

'I wish I had used Yoitoki from the beginning,' I genuinely felt. I'm regretting the time and money wasted on other apps."

S (27 years old, graduate student) | Achieved goals withYoitoki

"I needed 2 million yen for study abroad. I found two partners through Yoitoki, earning 300,000 yen a month. I reached my goal in 8 months and am currently studying at a graduate school in the US.

Yoitoki was chosen for its safety. I was anxious about my first 'papa-katsu,' but with verified identities, 24-hour support, and a trouble rate of 2.1% - seeing these numbers made me think, 'This is safe.'

In reality, over the past 8 months, I’ve had no troubles at all. Every meeting was a success.

💡 Limited-time special offer available now (until January 31)

Register with Yoitoki now, and you’ll receive all the following perks for free.

🎁 Perk 1: Complete Guidebook for Meetings (50 pages PDF, worth 19,800 yen)

• Complete manual for outfits and makeup
• Conversation techniques and question lists
• Allowance negotiation techniques

🎁 Perk 2: First Meeting Accompaniment Service (worth 29,800 yen)

• Female staff will wait nearby
• Immediate support if something feels off
• Safe for beginners

🎁 Perk 3: Minimum allowance guarantee of 10,000 yen for meetings

• Normally 5,000 yen guarantee, now limited to 10,000 yen
• If not received, the administration compensates

🎁 Perk 4: Premium features free for 14 days (worth 9,800 yen)

• Priority matching
• Unlimited messaging
• Higher search ranking

Total value of 59,400 yen is all free!

⏰ Remaining spots: 47 left

This month has the highest number of male users (just after bonuses). If you register now, you could have your first meeting next week.

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Post-Meeting Actions: Continuation, Refusal, Next Steps

After the meeting, you will be faced with a decision. "Should I build an ongoing relationship with this person or refuse?"

If You Want to Continue: Contact on the Same Day

If the meeting went well and you want to continue, send a thank-you message on the same day.

"Thank you for today. I really enjoyed it. I would like to see you again. Looking forward to our next date."

This message not only shows your sincerity but also helps confirm the other person's feelings. If you receive a positive reply, the chances of continuing the relationship are high.

Also, let's decide the specific date for the next meeting. Suggest something like, "How about next Friday at 7 PM?" Determining a specific date and time makes the relationship more concrete.

If You Want to Decline: Be Honest but Gentle

On the other hand, if you think, "I don't want to continue with this person," how you refuse is important.

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