A female university student living in Tsukuba, Ibaraki, experiences a "calm sugar-dating" even in a rural area. What did she find about adult kindness and reality with Mr. P from Tokyo, whom she met through Yoitoki?
Contents
- My honest feelings: "Sugar-dating in Ibaraki? No way…"
- Actually, more people are doing it than you think｜The reality in Mito and Tsukuba
- The first app I tried: Yoitoki
- The day I met Mr. P, who was on a business trip to Tsukuba
- From just a meal to an “adult relationship”
- Because it’s a rural area, the quality of encounters really matters
- Our current relationship: more than sugar-dating, less than lovers
- Summary | You can meet kind people even in Tsukuba
“Isn’t sugar-dating just a city thing?” —That’s what I thought
To be honest, I thought sugar-dating was only something that happened in big cities like Tokyo or Osaka.
I’m just an ordinary university student living in Tsukuba, Ibaraki Prefecture—
I work part-time, attend classes every day, and sometimes go to cafes with friends. That's my life.
But one day, while browsing social media, I came across a post by someone my age saying they were “doing P-katsu in Mito.”
I was shocked, thinking, “Wait… you can do this even in Ibaraki?”
Of course, I was skeptical at first.
There are fewer people here than in the cities, and above all, I was worried about meeting strange or dangerous types.
I actually had friends who were doing it—and they were pretty “good at it”
Around that time, I went out to eat with a friend from my junior college days I hadn’t seen in a while.
I casually asked, “How have you been lately?”
and she casually said, “Honestly, I regularly meet with a Mr. P.” My heart was pounding inside.
The location was Mito. Apparently, she’d also met someone in Tsukuba before.
She laughed, saying, “It’s actually easier in Ibaraki since there’s less competition compared to Tokyo.”
The app she was using was the invitation-only matching app
Yoitoki.
“You don’t meet weird people, and you can set transportation expenses in advance, which is convenient,” she recommended.
So, out of curiosity, I decided to register too.
The one I met on Yoitoki was a “business trip Mr. P” who lives in Tokyo
About a week after I registered, nothing really happened.
But one day, I received a “Hello” message from
a 48-year-old man living in Tokyo who regularly comes to Tsukuba for work.
His photo was in a suit, and his messages were polite.
His profile said, “I often come to local areas, so I’m looking for someone I can talk with easily,”
which made me instantly interested.
Our first meeting spot was a slightly upscale French restaurant in front of Kenkyu-Gakuen Station.
“Don’t force yourself, okay?” “Today we’re just having dinner.”
Hearing him say that, I felt my nerves fade away.
That day it was dinner + 20,000 yen + 2,000 yen transportation expenses.
It was much calmer and, honestly… more fun than I had expected.
Before I knew it—second time, third time… and an “adult relationship”
At first, it was just dinner.
But the second time, he asked, “Want to have some tea after dinner?”
By the third time, it naturally ended up with us heading to a hotel.
What’s strange is that I didn’t dislike it at all.
Maybe because there was this sense of calm. It felt less like “P-katsu”
and more like “being genuinely treated kindly by someone”.
After we slept together, when he quietly said “thank you” and handed me an envelope,
for some reason, I remember my chest tightening a little.
Precisely because it’s rural, “where” you meet really matters
Compared to Tokyo, Ibaraki definitely may have fewer options.
But because of that, “how” you meet is more important than “where” you meet.
Yoitoki offers the following safety features:
You can make your profile visible by invitation only
You can set the amount for compensation and transportation costs in advance
Messaging tends to be calm (not much casual flirting)
It’s invitation-only, so there are very few shady people
“Because it’s more rural, it’s really important to have an app you can use with peace of mind,” is how I feel now.
Our current relationship is “more than P-katsu, less than lovers”—and I like this ambiguity
Even now, I meet with him about once a month.
It kind of feels like a long-distance relationship, but
every time he prepares thoughtfully, and always treats me with care.
It’s not quite romance,
and a little different from traditional “sugar-dating,”
but this “adult relationship” that has been formed is both mysterious and a little comfortable.
In summary: Even in Ibaraki, you can have a “real, meaningful encounter”
Even if you’re not in a big city, even if you’re a girl living in a rural area,
as long as you choose the right way, you can meet someone who is genuinely kind.
What taught me that was not only the Yoitoki app,
but also the man who comes to Tsukuba on business trips.
I don’t know how long this relationship will last.
But right now, I feel a little proud that I get to spend time with someone who truly values me.
