Table of Contents
It's natural to feel "I don't know if I like them"
Why do we sometimes not know if we like someone?
Ways to ease emotional uncertainty
What Kato Taizo teaches about "maturity of love"
Places to meet that can resolve uncertainty
Systems that can reduce uncertainty, made possible by Yoitoki
Examples of love transformed from uncertainty
Conclusion: Taking a step to turn anxiety into reassurance
It's natural to feel "I don't know if I like them"
"Am I really in love with this person?"
Everyone has moments in romance when they question this.
Feeling less excited or becoming anxious when thinking of the other person...
But actually, this is very natural. It's just a part of the "fluctuation of feelings" in love.
What's important is how we perceive this uncertainty and move forward.
Why do we sometimes not know if we like someone?
There are several factors behind the struggle with "I don't know if I like them."
- Change in excitement: As the initial thrill of romance settles down, it can lead to anxiety.
- Influence of comparison: Feeling that "we're different" when comparing with relationships on social media or friends.
- Uncertainty about the future: Concerns about differing values or conflicting views on marriage.
This is not a sign that the other person is bad, but rather a sign that you haven't fully organized your "form of love" within yourself.
Ways to ease emotional uncertainty
To alleviate uncertainty, it helps to shift your perspective a bit.
- Is there consistency in the other person's words and behavior?
- Do they respect your values?
- Are you not forcing yourself to accept discomfort?
In love, "quality" is more important than "quantity." A relationship based on sincerity and reassurance can transform "I don't know if I like them" into "I want to be with this person."
What Kato Taizo teaches about "maturity of love"
Psychologist Kato Taizo teaches that "maturity of love is the power to give."
When struggling with "I don't know if I like them," people tend to focus too much on "what they are receiving."
But true love deepens by considering "what you are giving to the other person."
- Remembering small words from the other person
- Acting with their joyful face in mind
- Not hesitating to prepare
Such actions nurture the "feeling of love" and give strength to overcome uncertainty.
Places to meet that can resolve uncertainty
That said, it can be difficult to eliminate anxiety with individual effort alone.
That's why it's important to be in "places where you can safely organize your feelings."
Yoitoki is a service that supports serious encounters for those in their 30s.
It's not just casual meetings, but it's also not as heavy as a marriage consultation service; it sits in between.
It also features a system that aligns with Japanese romantic culture.
For example, there are rules based on sincerity regarding behavior on first dates, creating an environment where you can face the other person with reassurance.
Systems that can reduce uncertainty, made possible by Yoitoki
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Through matching based on values and psychological maturity, it nurtures "certainty" rather than "uncertainty."
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Examples of love transformed from uncertainty
Yoitoki has received feedback like "I wasn't sure if I liked them at first, but now we are dating with the intention of marriage."
Voice of a female user in her 30s:
"At first, I didn’t feel excited. But seeing their sincere support, my 'like' naturally grew."
Even starting from "I don't know if I like them," if you have the right meeting place and relationship, it can turn into real love.
Conclusion: Taking a step to turn anxiety into reassurance
Struggling with "I don't know if I like them" is natural in love.
What's important is,
- Accepting your feelings without denying them
- Choosing relationships based on sincerity
- Meeting partners who are psychologically mature
Yoitoki incorporates Kato Taizo's theory and AI "Kokoromusubi," providing a system to turn uncertainty into reassurance.
From "I don't know if I like them" to "I want to build a future with this person."
Why not take a new step starting today?
