Introduction: The "Moment of Selection" through a Phone Call

In the context of "Papa-katsu," the moment when the relationship progresses from exchanging messages to a "man who calls" is actually a very important turning point. Why does he make the call? If you respond without understanding his true intentions, you may find yourself at a disadvantage in future negotiations.

On the other hand, if you can use the call appropriately, you can efficiently assess the other person's sincerity, the authenticity of their financial capacity, and your compatibility with them before the initial meeting. To realize the principle of clear agreements and quality encounters of Yoitoki, strategic communication at this stage of the call is essential.

In this article, I will analyze the psychological patterns of men who call and share practical techniques for selecting high-quality partners through calls. As a first step toward building an ideal adult relationship where both parties can respect each other and fulfill their desired conditions, please read to the end.

Table of Contents

Introduction: The "Moment of Selection" through a Phone Call

1. Five Psychological Patterns of Men Who Call: Decoding Their True Intentions

2. Call Techniques: Strategies to Extract the Best Conditions from Men Who Call

3. Don’t Miss the Warning Signs: Characteristics of "Men to Avoid" Revealed in Calls

4. Perfect Preparation Before the Initial Meeting: Five Steps to Take After the Call

5. Keys to Long-Term Success: How to Evolve the Relationship with Men Who Call

Conclusion: Understanding the Psychology of Men Who Call and Building the Ideal Relationship

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1. Five Psychological Patterns of Men Who Call: Decoding Their True Intentions

Men who call are not all the same. Accurately understanding their motivations is the first step to protecting yourself and extracting favorable conditions.

Pattern 1: The Serious "Sincere Confirmation Type"

This type of man wants to confirm your personality, way of speaking, and values before actually meeting. They are usually in the stage of narrowing down their choices among multiple candidates, and the call is like the final selection process.

Characteristics:

• Politely asks in advance, "I would like to talk a little about XX, can I have about 10 minutes?"
• During the call, specifically asks about your desired conditions (amount of compensation, frequency of meetings, range of relationship)
• Shares their own situation (profession, family structure, time constraints) transparently

Yoitoki's Perspective: This type is an ideal partner candidate who naturally practices the principle of transparency and mutual respect that we advocate. The content of his questions during the call will serve as important signals for the clarity of future relationships.

Pattern 2: The Efficiency-Oriented "Time-Saving Type"

This type is common among busy businessmen and entrepreneurs. For them, a 5-minute call is overwhelmingly more efficient than exchanging messages, characterized by fast decision-making speed.

Characteristics:

• Straightforwardly states, "It takes too long with messages, so I thought it would be quicker to talk directly."
• The call is concise and to the point, with little wasted small talk.
• Makes quick decisions regarding conditions and immediately moves to schedule the first meeting if an agreement is reached.

Response Strategy: With this type, you should also aim for concise and clear communication. Organize your desired conditions in advance so you can smoothly communicate them during the call. Ambiguous responses may be seen as a waste of their time, leading to being excluded from consideration.

Pattern 3: The Cautious "Risk-Avoiding Type"

This type consists of men who have experienced troubles in the past or are naturally cautious. Through the call, they want to verify whether you are not a scammer or multi-level marketing recruiter and whether you are genuinely the person in the photos.

Characteristics:

• Shares past experiences by saying, "In the past, there was someone whose profile picture was completely different..."
• Tries to guess your age and personality based on your tone of voice and way of speaking.
• Carefully observes your reactions regarding the place and time for the initial meeting.

Response Strategy: For this type, demonstrating sincerity and consistency is most effective. Be careful to avoid contradictions between your profile content and what you say during the call, and aim for polite responses to ease their concerns. However, be cautious if they excessively ask for personal information.

Pattern 4: The Controlling "Dominating Type" (Caution Required)

This type tries to quickly establish a master-slave relationship or power dynamic between you through the call. This is one of the most patterns to avoid in "Papa-katsu."

Characteristics:

• Calls suddenly without prior agreement and blames you, asking, "Why didn’t you answer?"
• Excessively pries into your private life and social relationships during the call.
• Unilaterally decides the amount of compensation by saying, "The market rate is about this much," leaving no room for negotiation.

Clear Countermeasure: You should not engage with this type, as it contradicts the principle of equal partnership that Yoitoki emphasizes. If you feel uncomfortable during the call, politely decline and block them immediately. Quality relationships always start with mutual respect.

Pattern 5: The "Approval-Seeking Type" Filling a Sense of Loneliness

This type is financially stable but has a strong need for emotional connection and approval. Their calls tend to be lengthy, risking blurred boundaries in the relationship.

Characteristics:

• Continues to talk about their daily life and concerns rather than discussing conditions.
• Often uses emotional phrases like, "I feel healed when talking to you."
• Unconsciously demands a higher frequency and longer duration of calls.

Response Strategy: Balancing kindness and clear boundaries is key. While listening to their stories moderately, steer the conversation by saying, "To respect each other's time, shall we organize the conditions first?" Yoitoki recommends clarifying the scope of the relationship and expectations.

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2. Call Techniques: Strategies to Extract the Best Conditions from Men Who Call

A call is not just a casual chat; it is a negotiation platform. How you handle it will significantly affect the conditions of the first meeting, the amount of ongoing compensation, and the quality of the relationship.

Technique 1: Control the Timing of the Call

Important Principle: Not being swept up by the other person's pace and taking the lead is the first step toward building an equitable relationship.

Practical Methods:

• Do not answer sudden calls; instead, send a message saying, "I'm unable to talk now, can we arrange a time after XX?"
• Choose a time and place where you can speak calmly, and share the purpose of the call and an estimate of how long it will take in advance (e.g., "About 15 minutes for aligning conditions").
• If the call seems to exceed the planned time significantly, clearly communicate, "I'm sorry, but I have another appointment, so let’s continue another time."

Effects of This Strategy: Women who can manage their time convey the impression that they are "highly skilled negotiators who understand their value," which reduces the risk of easily lowering their conditions. In the Yoitoki community, women with high self-management skills build long-term satisfying relationships.

Technique 2: Take Charge by "Order of Questions"

Many women end up passively answering questions from men. However, by asking questions first, you can control the flow of the conversation and efficiently gauge their seriousness and conditions.

Effective Order of Questions:

1. Confirming the Relationship: "What kind of relationship do you specifically have in mind? Will we be meeting regularly or sporadically?"
2. Clarifying Conditions: "How many times a month do you envision us meeting? What amount of compensation do you have in mind for that?"
3. Understanding the Other Person's Situation: "If it's not too much trouble, may I ask what kind of work you do?" (This helps infer their financial capacity)
4. Initial Conditions: "When we first meet, will you cover the transportation and meal costs? Is it okay to discuss details about compensation after we meet?"

Why This Order is Important: By confirming the framework of the relationship first, subsequent condition negotiations will be smoother. Also, asking questions will give the impression of "a clear expectation and an independent woman," making the other person take it seriously.

Technique 3: Utilize the "Power of Silence"

In negotiation skills, silence is one of the most powerful weapons. Especially when discussing conditions, many women become nervous and end up saying unnecessary things, putting themselves at a disadvantage.

Practical Scenario:

Man: "How about a monthly compensation of 30,000 yen? Assuming we meet twice a month."

NG Response (Disadvantageous): "Oh, yes, that’s fine!" (Answering immediately leaves no room for negotiation)

NG Response (Disadvantageous): "Um, that seems a bit... but, well..." (Ambiguous responses give the impression that your desires are unclear)

Optimal Response:

1. First create a 3 to 5 seconds of silence
2. Then calmly say, "Well, to be honest, I was considering around 50,000 yen per month. I want to build a good relationship with you, so I hope we can discuss a mutually agreeable amount."

Psychological Effect of This Strategy: Silence is evidence that you are seriously considering the conditions presented, and at the same time, it sends a nonverbal message that "I won't accept easily." Additionally, proposing alternatives afterward demonstrates an equal negotiating stance.

Technique 4: Justifying Conditions through "Framing"

Instead of simply saying, "I want XX yen," adding the reasons or background that justify that amount significantly increases the other person's acceptance.

Effective Framing Examples:

• Linking to Goals: "Actually, I’m saving funds for XX, and if I have 50,000 yen a month, I could achieve that goal in six months. I would love for you to be a partner who supports my dream."
• Clarifying Time Value: "If we meet twice a month for 4 hours each time, including preparation and travel time, we would each be investing about 12 hours a month. For quality time together, I believe 60,000 yen is reasonable."
• Emphasizing Mutual Benefit: "I also want to value our time together and believe that a figure that allows us both to continue a good relationship without strain would be ideal. Therefore, I think XX yen strikes a balance for both of us."
  
   

Yoitoki Philosophy: These techniques embody the principle of Yoitoki known as Mutual Benefit Clarity. A good Papa-katsu relationship is based not on one-sided demands, but on mutually agreeable and respectful conditions.

Technique 5: Clarify "Next Steps" and End the Call

Even if the call ends on a good note, if the next action remains unclear, the relationship may fizzle out. Always confirm a concrete next step at the end of the call.

Effective Closing Example:

"I’m glad we could talk today. So, let's meet on XX at YY time at a café near XX station, and I will contact you again the day before. As for the compensation, let’s finalize the details after we meet. Thank you, XX."

Effects of This Closing:

• Prevent misalignment of understanding by reconfirming the date, time, and conditions
• Demonstrate your reliability through the "confirm the day before" promise
• Gives the other person the impression that "this person is trustworthy," reducing the risk of cancellations.

3. Don’t Miss the Warning Signs: Characteristics of "Men to Avoid" Revealed in Calls

No matter how good the conditions are, a relationship lacking safety and respect can cause significant damage to your mental and physical well-being. If you notice the following warning signs during the call, having the courage to cut ties may be the best choice.

Warning Sign 1: Excessive Obsession with Personal Information

Specific Examples:

• Insistently asking for your real name, address, workplace, school name, etc.
• Requesting additional contact information (Facebook, Instagram, etc.) "to build trust."
• Overly inquiring about your social relationships and family structure.

Why This is Dangerous: Papa-katsu relationships are based on mutual respect for each other’s privacy. Insisting on personal information before the first meeting likely indicates stalker tendencies or a controlling nature, which could lead to future troubles.

Appropriate Response: Politely decline by saying, "For our safety, should we first meet in person?" If they persist, block them immediately.

Warning Sign 2: Unilateral Imposition of Conditions

Specific Examples:

• Saying, "The market rate for Papa-katsu is XX, so there’s no room for negotiation."
• Deciding "the conditions are set" before hearing your preferences.
• Only suggesting payment methods that place a risk on you, like "post-payment" or "lump sum at the end of the month."

Why This is Dangerous: This type completely lacks the core of Yoitoki's principle of equal negotiation and mutual respect. The risk of unpaid compensation or unilateral expansion of the relationship's scope is extremely high with this type.

Appropriate Response: Clearly decline by saying, "It seems that our desired conditions do not align. If we have the chance again, perhaps next time."

Warning Sign 3: Rapid Shift to Sexual Topics

Specific Examples:

• Asking about your physical features or sexual experiences from the very first call.
• Trying to determine the boundaries of the relationship before the first meeting by asking, "What can we do if we meet?"
• Using crude jokes or sexual language excessively to test your reactions.

Why This is Dangerous: Men who are genuinely looking for a partner do not delve into sexual topics from the first call. This type likely sees you not as a partner but as merely a sexual object.

Yoitoki Safety Features: Yoitoki has implemented a system to automatically detect users who use inappropriate sexual expressions in profiles and messages, issuing warnings and suspending accounts. We provide an environment where you can focus on high-quality encounters in safety.

Warning Sign 4: Emotional Manipulation or Urgency

Specific Examples:

• Rushing your decision with statements like, "If you don’t decide now, I’ll go for someone else."
• Making vague promises like, "I really like you, so let’s meet first and discuss conditions later."
• Dismissing you with comments like, "Wanting such a high compensation makes you greedy" when you state your conditions.

Why This is Dangerous: These are typical techniques of **psychological manipulation**. They aim to destabilize you emotionally, stripping you of your ability to make rational judgments, thus coercing you into accepting unfavorable conditions.

Appropriate Response: Take a step back by saying, "I don’t think we need to rush into a decision. I want to proceed in a way that we can both agree on, so please allow me some time to think." It’s advisable to consult a trusted friend or the Yoitoki support team afterward.

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4. Perfect Preparation Before the Initial Meeting: Five Steps to Take After the Call

Even if you have a good impression from the call, appropriate preparation is necessary before the initial meeting. The preparation done here will affect the long-term success of the relationship.

Step 1: Document the Call Content and Conditions

Human memory is vague. Relying only on verbal promises may lead to troubles later on when someone says, "I didn’t say that."

Practical Methods:

• Immediately after the call, take notes of the agreed conditions (amount of compensation, frequency of meetings, scope of the relationship, initial meeting place, etc.).
• Confirm important conditions in writing via LINE or message: "I just want to confirm what we discussed today; is it correct that we agreed on XX?"
• Save the reply of "yes" from the other person.

Yoitoki's Perspective: This documentation process is fundamental to what we advocate for Transparent Relationship Building. An excellent partner will not only welcome but prefer such confirmation work.

Step 2: Establish "Safety Protocols" for the Initial Meeting

Risk management is essential for face-to-face meetings with someone you’re meeting for the first time.

Essential Safety Measures:

1. Location Selection: Choose a public place with high foot traffic (such as a café near a station or a hotel lounge). Avoid private rooms or secluded places at all costs.
2. Time of Day: Set it during the day or early evening. Meeting late at night is dangerous.
3. Informing a Friend: Share the other person’s information (name, meeting place, time) with a trusted friend, and agree to "contact the police if I haven’t heard from you by XX time."
4. Escape Plan: Prepare a reason to leave immediately if you feel uncomfortable (e.g., "I have a promise with a friend later").

Important Mindset: Regardless of how good the impression from the call was, act under the premise that "I still do not know this person" during the initial meeting. Being overly cautious is never a bad thing.

Step 3: Polish Both Appearance and Inner Self

The initial meeting is a critical moment that can determine the success of a long-term relationship. Remember that it is not only about meeting the other person's expectations but also an opportunity for you to evaluate them.

Preparation for Appearance:

• Choose clean, elegant clothing (avoid revealing outfits and aim for a simple, sophisticated style).
• Natural makeup and tidied hair.
• Use perfume sparingly (strong scents may cause discomfort in a closed room).

Preparation for Inner Self:

• Lightly review current affairs or topics related to the other person’s profession.
• Be able to succinctly explain your goals and dreams (elements that can make the other person want to "support you").
• Prepare a list of 3 to 5 questions for the other person (to show your interest in them).

Yoitoki's Matching Philosophy: Not only physical attraction but also the ability to engage in intellectual conversation and understand the other person's perspective is crucial for long-term relationships. The Kokoromusubi AI analyzes these multifaceted compatibilities and offers encounters that go beyond superficial matching.

Step 4: Understand "Your Value" Rather than the "Market Rate"

Many women are swayed by online information about "Papa-katsu compensation rates." However, your value is determined not by general market rates but by your own time, charm, and the value you can offer.

Self-Evaluation Framework:

• Time Value: How does your hourly rate compare to other income opportunities (part-time jobs, side jobs, etc.)?
• Provided Value: What experiences or values can you offer the other person? (e.g., intellectual conversation, healing, companionship at social events)
• Scarcity: How many women with similar profiles are in the market? What is your unique charm?

Pricing Strategy:

• Set a bottom line of "I won’t meet for less than this amount."
• If the offered amount is below your bottom line, have the courage to politely decline, saying, "It seems we weren’t meant to be."
• If considering a long-term relationship, it’s okay to slightly concede at first, but secure an agreement for "to review conditions after three months."

Step 5: Adopt the Mindset of a "Contract"

In the business world, significant transactions are not made solely on verbal promises. Similarly, in Papa-katsu, documenting mutual agreements is the best way to prevent troubles.

Example of a Simple Agreement:

【Agreement on Relationship with XX】

Date: XX Month, 2025

- Frequency of Meetings: Twice a month (weekend evenings, 3 to 4 hours each time)

- Compensation: 30,000 yen per meeting (60,000 yen per month), paid in cash on the day

- Scope of Relationship: Up to meals and conversations in cafés

- Transportation Costs: To be reimbursed separately

- Means of Communication: LINE (reply within 24 hours)

- Review: Confirm satisfaction from both sides after three months and reconsider conditions

Effects of This Agreement:

• Prevents "he said/she said" troubles
• Clarifies mutual expectations, preventing the accumulation of dissatisfaction
• Demonstrates a serious attitude toward the relationship and earns trust from the other party

Yoitoki's Suggestion: Such documented agreements represent the ideal of Yoitoki's concept of Contractual Partnership. It is precisely because there is a rational framework alongside emotions that long-term, satisfying relationships can be realized.

5. Keys to Long-Term Success: How to Evolve the Relationship with Men Who Call

Even after a successful initial meeting that leads to an ongoing relationship, one must remain vigilant. Here are strategies to maintain the relationship long-term and evolve it toward better conditions.

Strategy 1: Conduct Regular "Health Checks" of the Relationship

Many Papa-katsu relationships continue unchanged for months, leading one party to harbor dissatisfaction, resulting in a sudden end. To prevent this, regular communication is crucial.

Practical Methods:

• Every three months, set aside time to check "our mutual satisfaction."
• Ask honestly, "XX, is there anything you’d like to improve in our relationship?"
• Be open about your own desires, such as "I’d like to increase our frequency of meetings" or "I want to discuss compensation."

Effects of This Habit: Resolving small grievances early can prevent sudden relationship termination. Moreover, it gives the impression to the other person that "this person values the relationship," making negotiations for better conditions easier.

Strategy 2: Provide "Additional Value" to Naturally Draw Out Better Conditions

Instead of directly demanding an increase in compensation, this strategy involves enhancing your value to make the other person naturally think, "I want to offer better conditions."

Specific Examples of Additional Value:

• Share useful information related to the other person's business or hobbies (e.g., "There’s an exhibition that XX might be interested in").
• Propose accompanying them at social events to enhance their status.
• Provide accurate advice or new perspectives regarding their concerns.

Yoitoki's Perspective: This is the essence of the "value exchange partnership" that goes beyond mere monetary transactions. If you can truly provide value to the other person’s life, the compensation will naturally increase.

Strategy 3: Manage Multiple Partnerships Concurrently (For Advanced Users)

Relying on only one partner increases the risk when that relationship ends. If you seek financial stability, having relationships with 2 to 3 partners can be one strategy.

Principles for Success:

• Do not lie to any partner (however, you don’t need to disclose details about other relationships).
• Thoroughly manage your schedule and do not break promises.
• Maintain a sincere and consistent attitude in each relationship.

Important Caution: This strategy requires advanced time management and communication skills. Forcing multiple relationships can lead to a breakdown of all if not managed carefully. Evaluate your capabilities calmly before deciding.

Strategy 4: Decide the Timing of Your "Graduation"

For many women, Papa-katsu is a means during a specific period of life and not a permanent career. Once you achieve your goals (paying off school fees, securing startup funds, ensuring time for skill development), you need the courage to end the relationship on your own terms.

Smart Ways to End a Relationship:

• Rather than suddenly cutting off contact, sincerely communicate 1 to 2 months in advance, saying, "I’d like to end our relationship as I have achieved my goal of XX by the end of △ month."
• Express your gratitude to the other person, leaving a good impression as you conclude.
• If necessary, leave flexibility by saying, "If there are opportunities in the future, I might reach out again."

Yoitoki's Philosophy: Good relationships are defined not only by how they start but also by how they end. Keeping the reins of your life in your hands is the first step toward true independence.

Conclusion: Understanding the Psychology of Men Who Call and Building the Ideal Relationship

Men who call have various psychological motivations and intentions behind them. By accurately interpreting their true intentions and executing appropriate communication strategies, you can evolve from merely being a "Papa-katsu girl" into a self-reliant woman who strategically designs her life.

Let’s review what has been conveyed in this article:

1. Classifying the psychology of men who call into five patterns and the optimal response methods to each
2. Utilizing calls as negotiation platforms to extract the best conditions through five techniques
3. Noticing the warning signs and prioritizing safety in decision-making
4. Perfect preparation before the initial meeting and strategies for evolving the relationship long-term

This knowledge can be universally applied in all negotiations and human relationships beyond the scope of Papa-katsu.

However, no matter how polished your strategies are, if the quality of the person you meet is low, the ideal relationship will not materialize. That is why Yoitoki gathers only high-quality male members who have passed strict screening under the principle of clear agreements and quality encounters.

With deep compatibility analysis by the Kokoromusubi AI, safety ensured through identity verification and income proof, and a platform function that supports transparent relationship building, Yoitoki is your best partner for achieving the adult relationship you truly desire, based on equality and mutual respect.

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